Happiness Log - 9/7/15

Today could have been a day of refusing to check my texts, feeling sorry for myself under the duvet and bemoaning fate. I write the worst kind of poetry when I'm down, terrible only in its self-absorbed nature. It's so easy to slip into self-pity, I was seriously scrambling against the rocks today.

Trying to take responsibility for myself, (for who better to be your life coach than you), I cringed as I decided on the 'two Ps' as my marketing strategy: perspective and productivity. So, today I read the newspapers, the budget analyses explaining that one's personal choices: to have kids, go to university, work in the public sector, would be economically punished in a completely unjustifiable manner. I read about Lesbos and the refugees who walk 40 miles, barefoot in the baking heat simply for a chance of crossing the Aegean sea. So, perspective. Whilst nobody's saying you don't have a right to feel down sometimes, surely the best thing is to channel that negative energy into positive action?

And productivity: I was a model citizen today. I helped my elders, I did their shopping, I was engaging and calm and charming. I cooked dinner. I went to the gym. I read a book. I came up with ideas for the magazine that I write for. I hid all of my resentment under a guise of competence. Distraction is better than the cure it seems.

Today could have been rubbish. At this minute I could be sat in bed in the same pyjamas I woke up in, feeling greasy and unwanted and full of self-loathing. Today actually turned out pretty well, I watched the sun set and stretched out all of my tension. Despite all of the negativity I felt today, I think I channelled it well. Whilst today could have been a lot better, it could have been a hell of a lot worse. It seems that keeping engaged and busy can cure a multitude of ills.

Sad songs for sad Sundays

My empty arms caught the morning rain

As I fell victim to this feeling of Sunday 

Comprising if battered photographs, cream paper and bruised fingernails 

When tried to unearth the lies I had buried years before

Wrapping them in crimson paper

With 'do not disturb' written over their bones

And I fell victim to this feeling of Sunday

Whisperings of new beginnings swung their legs on the window pane 

But there were doors that had come unstuck

I walked for miles that day

Their keys sit under drainpipe covers and rest in potholes

Your roses smell like decay

And Sunday feels impenetrable now 

Post Break-Up Drive Home

The gearstick your lance

I am wounded by forced silence

Hanging between our fingers

And nestled within the static 

Of a Radio Four documentary

Unremarkable stretch

Of grey-blue blurs 

Interspersed with coughing saplings

Struggling in their plaster casts 

The miles tick downwards

My chest balloons with relief 

Sweaty fingers fumble with the dials 

Is there a station to drown out your resentment? 

Deep lidded glares, caught in the musty smell eminating from

Under my seat 

Confessions of a Subway Worker

I am very naïve. It was this naïveté that led me to take up a part time job in a Subway, as though they owed me something. As though my age and relative inexperience wouldn't automatically qualify me as 'kitchen bitch' both in terms of wages and workload. Put it this way, I'd have to work for almost an hour just to be able to afford the bus fare home... I lived less than 5 minutes away. 

I know that there are a multitude of teenagers and twenty-somethings working the night-shift in a dead end job, bleary eyed over the rim of their coffee cup and hoping for a little more satisfaction. But that doesn't make it okay. 

What I really have a problem with is the inflated sense of superiority that Subway customers seem to have. I may resemble a giant bogey in my lurid green 'meal deal' t-shirt but I'm also a straight A student applying to university. Just because I work in food service doesn't meant that I don't deserve to be treated with any less respect that if I were the Queen of England (I should probably be treated with more respect, I bet Queenie never had to scrub out a toilet). 

But really it's pretty hypocritical of me to complain of misguided superiority and then try and justify my own. Does the fact that I'm applying to university really make me any better than my cohorts who aren't? By working here I have been exposed to people who have suffered more heartbreak and sadness than you would ever care to think about. That kind of sadness that makes your bones ache and your chest wonder if you'll ever breathe normally again. I've met people who work until stupid-o'clock just to avoid the war zone that they have to come home to. How can my paper-thin qualifications match up to such integrity?

 I am blessed in that I have met people who wake up every morning with the blackest cloud hanging over their heads, yet they can keep going and going. No matter how many customers sneer at them or how much their managers under-pay them: they'll be there, plastering on a smile over the jagged cracks of their souls, offering their sincerest apologies for putting the wrong sauce on your sandwich when last night their boyfriend cheated on them and they haven't slept since. 

Perhaps if people took the time to gain a little perspective and stopped trying to pigeonhole people based on their job, maybe we'd stop spitting in your food when you weren't looking. 

Murakami on Mental Illness

Having just finished Haruki Murakami's Norwegian Wood, I feel that I have to write about his portrayal of mental illness. There are few books that give an accurate representation of mental illnesses, many authors succumb to stereotypes and stigmas which somewhat blackens the characterisation of the sufferers that they have otherwise built up. Murakami never explicitly references the specific mental illnesses that he inflicts upon his characters and in doing so, he does not adhere to tropes generally applied to mental illness sufferers in literature - hence his ambiguity enhances his writing. Viewed from the perspective of a compassionate outsider rather than an almost anti-septic psychoanalyst, he allows his characters to be understood as people rather than as the walking embodiment of their diseases. The book's prevailing message - regarding the past's involvement in shaping the future, the representation of time as perfectly linear (never accommodating for clean breaks) and the portrayal of love as something that smashes every presentiment you've ever held about it - is underpinned by mental illness, its effects on both the sufferer and the observer.

The book's structure ensures that you never see those suffering as anything other than ordinary, for me I felt that Murakami was making the point that we are all deeply flawed human beings, each with a unique past that has forced us to grow up to be the people that we are; yet some of these flaws are perceived as 'wrong' and some are viewed as acceptable, rather than viewing these flaws objectively as flaws, we feel the need to categorise society into 'them' and 'us' - 'normal' and 'abnormal'. Murakami is definitely not a lazy writer, he has taken it upon himself to portray complex characters with their own individual idiosyncrasies and it is this that ensures that his characters are not defined by their illnesses. They are instead portrayed as people who simply feel the consequences of the burdens they have had to bear, each manifesting itself in a different manner... because no portrayal is flat, they are not stereotypes, they are people who are suffering yet coping as best as they can. Unfortunately, there is a futility that manifests itself in this portrayal, no character appears able to fully recover from their individual sufferings, there is a serious question raised about courage: is courage being able to end your suffering for yourself or is courage being able to carry on through the flames?

This futility is a frightening thought when one comes back to Murakami's philosophy that we are all inherently flawed and individually haunted by the shortcomings of our past. He explores the limits of mortality when faced with individual integrity and for me it's a beautifully accurate representation of the human psyche - both contradictory and conformist, uniform and unique. That may sound cliché but the duality and idiosyncrasy that runs through his narrative means that I can confidently affirm this as truth.

Starry Nights Don't Trigger These Thoughts

I fell asleep with crumbs in my bed because they told me never to bite the hand that feeds you.

That's why it creeps along fire escapes and hard edged corridors, that creek, pressing you against the walls. And I let it get so close that I saw the whites of its eyes flash to yellow, my neck closing around my throat so that your hands didn't have to. The smoke poured through the window and the wallpaper flickered - a fairground full of paper people hiding behind its flocked pattern. I waited for the clock that never struck and the door that never knocked as I heard you breathing outside of my door. I could hear the sound of my eyelashes brushing my cheeks as I tried to decide which kind of darkness felt the safest. I bore holes in my bed sheets as I camped out until morning, waiting for the dawn to chase away your shadow and for you to fade back into my walls.

A War Poem

Falling over hilltop and mound

Like cattle strung up by the neck

Only days ago was this a spot

For plump gentlemen, children

Battling it out with sticks 

If we could only have rearranged

Those faces which line 

The pews of the Commons

For we trudge, empty handed with

War's steamroller chasing our broken footsteps